Is it right to fight in front of our child?
September 29, 2009

All parents occasionally become angry with each other in the presence of their young children, but if you manage to maintain a reasonably pleasant atmosphere until you are alone, you will spare your son from dealing with relationship complexities for which he is developmentally unprepared.
However, if, in spite of your best intentions, a quarrel breaks out in front of your son, stop the hostilities as soon as you can and reassure your son by saying, “We’re sorry we upset you–we know it’s hard for you when we argue.
Mommy and Daddy love each other even when we fight, and we both love you all the time!”
There is a popular but mistaken notion that “real life” unpleasantness will strengthen the character of the young. In reality, their developmental immaturity prevents young children from defending themselves against the emotional pain they feel when things go wrong. So parental arguments and other painful events leave young children more–rather than less–vulnerable to stress.
On the other hand, if you shield your son from distressing experiences in general, and especially from the pain of witnessing you and your husband fighting, over time he will develop an abiding optimism about his world and his ability to have the harmony and love that he wants and needs. As he grows older, this positive outlook will give him the strength and resilience to respond effectively to the challenges of everyday life.
You and your husband clearly have your son’s best interests at heart. So the next time you feel angry at each other in his presence, try to remember that what feels like an everyday blowup to you feels like a nuclear explosion to him, and do your best to contain your anger until you are alone. Postponing your quarrel will be easier if you realize that in this way you nourish your son’s emotional well-being as surely as you care for his physical health by keeping him out of the street and away from the stove.
♥about me♥
September 10, 2009♥ Merry May B. Barrogo –> MhAye
♥ if you want good treatment from me, you have to give me in return.
♥ i am good enough exactly as i am and learning and growing every step of the way.
♥ no matter anyone reacts to me, i know i am a worhwhile person.
♥ i will be successful i know. i can look forward to many good things in life.
♥ i expect to get more good things in life than the average person.
♥ i enjoy learning nEw things.
♥ i have a responsibility and commitment to my family and to my country.
♥ true romantic at heart.
♥ i wont allow anyone to step on me.
♥ i hate liars and bullies, they are just the so called KSP
♥ i hate gossip-monger. just mind your own life ok.
♥ i dare to be who i want to be.
♥ i love imperfections and all! get to know me and you will see that my inside is lovelier than my outside.Ü
♥ i am perfectly HAPPY being IMPERFECT. having imperfect FAMILY, imperfect FRIENDS and imperfect LIFE. well in fact. i LOVE it.![]()
♥ most of my FRIENDS first impression on me is MATARAY MAARTE MASUNGIT, but they proved their selves wrong. SHY at first but when i already feel comfortable with YOU. Hmm.? can you please tell me the meaning of SHY TYPE? haha.
♥ i’m MOODY sometimes, i easily get IRRITATED to ANNOYING people and PRETENDERS. “TRYING to be someone they’re NOT”
♥ easy to be with
♥ i’m FUN LOVING person
♥ i’m HEALTH conscious? haha. but i cant help MYSELF to EAT a LOT. “TAKAW MATA” SOMETIMES. :p
♥ i LOVE myself and i deserve to be LOVED 24/7.WHAT MAKES ME FEEL BEAUTIFUL?
When i choose to stay positive and calm inside, having enough sleep and keep smiling! ÜAMBITION: to travel around the world, to have my own island or resorT. WHOA.! haha.
PRIVATE STATEMENT IN LIFE: SIMPLICITY means a life centered in the spirit. that includes an avoidance of materialism, a constant search for truth, living according to one’s belief and creating opportunities for reflection in daily life.
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♥ PERSONAL infos are kept PERSONAL ! =]





